I honestly don’t know where to go with this next section, this is the part where everything just starts to blur together. And where breaking it apart is going to get harder because from this block of time and into 11 years later was kind of all the same, in a sense.
There were still some pretty significant moments but I’ll try to break it up and keep it in order the best I can.
I wanted to go a little more into the previous abusive relationship though I don’t remember MUCH and I can’t look back on it because the blogs I had back then have all been long deleted since those servers aren’t around anymore. I guess I should had somehow kept a backup somewhere but you don’t think of that shit back then.
I do remember my ex didn’t like that I blogging, he said my blogs all “made him look bad” when he gave me more bad days than good and back then I only wrote about HOW MY DAY WENT, there weren’t many people who knew about blogs back then so you were able to write whatever you wanted without having to censor yourself. The ironic part was that he seemed to only read my blog or remembered it even existed when I had written “something bad” about him. When I’d write happy things about him and I’d even link him he’d tell me I’m lying or some other discouraging shit. He didn’t have a LiveJournal so a lot of times I was able to “friends only” my posts and he wouldn’t had known the difference.
Right before I broke up with him I do remember my teacher had set up this community service thing for those of us in Leadership (keep in mind I lived in Vallejo at the time, my ex lived in San Francisco). My ex needed community service hours in order to graduate which his own school offered lots of ways you could do this… but he cared more about gaming and “battling” (he was a competitive fighting games person. He even went to compete in tournaments for Soul Calibur, Virtual Fighter, Guilty Gear sometimes and Tekken mostly and he’s the reason why I got into fighting games as much as I did. He also competed in EVO every year which is the biggest fighting game tournament).
I had told him I wasn’t able to come to San Francisco one weekend cause I had to do my Leadership thing and he had asked me to ask my teacher if he could earn credits and helped. She said no because it was strictly for JUST Leadership. The rest of the school wasn’t able to join so why should he? And that made perfect sense to me. So I told him and he got mad at ME. He accused me of not “fighting hard enough” for him. I didn’t think this was a big deal. Like at all. It was only for one day anyway.
He thought it was a HUGE deal. As he did everything else when he didn’t get his way. So he did his usual routine of nightly fights with me and this night he took it too far. He SAID he was SO MAD AT ME that he had tried to KILL HIMSELF because of me and if he died it would be MY FAULT. He CLAIMED he was rushed to the hospital. He claimed he had cut himself on the chest (strange place to self inflict yourself, first of all) then somehow MAGICALLY this hospital had a PC just I guess in his room at his disposal because even “IN THE HOSPITAL” he would sign on to AIM (AOL Instant Messenger, yes yall this was that long ago) and CONTINUE to guilt me or attempt to guilt me about this whole stupid situation. He would harass me saying he had a 27% chance of living. Yes. No joke. That’s what he claimed. Which was funny because when I’d call his house phone on my cell, his phone line was busy. You know, kind of like when you had dial up and were using the phone for… oh, I don’t know… the internet?
And ironically the hospital info he provided me when I asked for proof couldn’t be found. I even called 411 since it wasn’t showing up on Yahoo search and they said the hospital name didn’t exist. Fancy. That. I asked for proof because once my mom heard about what happened she said I wasn’t allowed to go to SF or see him anymore; I didn’t argue. I was like THANKGOODNESS and of course he blamed me of once again “not fighting hard enough for us” you right. Cause I didn’t. So he tricks me into meeting him at the mall where he gives me flowers and tries to say sorry for the shit he said/did. He even kissed ass and gave my mom flowers. This convo will forever stay in my mind.
Jeff: I got you these flowers as a way to say sorry for everything, I know you have a favorite flower and I couldn’t find them so I got these instead.
My mom: disgusted look.
My mom: Yeah, these aren’t them. I can’t accept these, Hazel we have to go. Now.
Oct 2nd 2003
I knew off the bat this wasn’t going to be good. He said he felt like I didn’t love him anymore.. it’s not that I don’t love him, but I don’t really know what it is.. I just don’t feel like being in this relationship anymore. I know he’s done a lot for me, but my heart refuses to accept him back in.. and after a week of trying to convince my heart that we should try again, it doesnt think so. And you can’t control what your heart truely feels. This passed week, I’ve never felt emptier being with someone.. I don’t know. So I broke up with him and as always he made a big deal out of it. Saying shit like “I hate you, I hope you die. I wish I never met you, you don’t even deserve love from your parents for what you did to me” I don’t know what love from my PARENTS have to do with this.. but arright. And saying that if he never went out with me, his life would be happier.. that he doesnt want anyone to know we were ever together because its a disgrace going out with me. Just because I broke up with doesnt mean that what he said didn’t hurt. I eventually got tired of him telling me this stuff and hung up on him. He got online and his profile read:
FUCK YOU HAZEL (LAST NAME)
EAT SHIT AND DIE, YOU FUCKING SLUT
For free blowjobs, call [ my PHONE NUMBER here ]. Ask for Hazel Abatayo from Vallejo and meet out in the back of Marine World for sucking fun!
And you wonder why everyone hates you and you don’t have any real friends in V-town, you fucking 2 faced whore
I found SOME stuff but not the conversations I was looking for. After he had posted this, literally the next day he asked me to FORGIVE HIM.
red_hail on October 3rd, 2003 04:22 am (UTC)I did NOT take you for granted. I never did. If I did, tell the the reasons. If you can’t, then I didn’t. Unless you can tell me, then you have NO right to say I’ve taken you for granted.
And yes, I appreciate you so fucken much. You can’t possibly keep blaming me for this. There weren’t a MILLION reasons. More like, “there’s a million reasons that doesn’t make sense because you can’t give them reasons.”
You’re telling people different stories about us. You’re only telling them the bad parts and not what happens afterwards.
Dame Nightmare: said something like she didn’t have freedom or something
OK. You’re blaming this on me? You DON’T appreciate what I do for you. You just keep blaming me and trying to make me look bad towards others. You keep telling people different stories to make me look bad, why? You’re not telling the truth at ALL.The WHOLE world knows we’re meant to be. The problem is that you catergorize your friends like “my vallejo friends say this” or “my 415 friends say that.” There isn’t any other reason that we’re not meant to be that we’ve gone through. Valentine’s day, 1st time at prom, 1st time we’ve done things we could never possibly dream of doing for anyoneelse, my 1st love, your first guy that you KNOW that will make you happy and gave you a ring to show that we’re engaged and will live HAPPILY ever after like in the disney movies you love so much.
I promised all those things. You know I can do them. You know that I’m the ONLY guy that will. This is guaranteed. You DON’T get ANY guarantees in life, but this. You know it. I know you know it. Everyone does. You only get one shot at REAL love. Don’t let it pass you by. You can’t give me or anyone any reasons why, and you just run away. Everyone knows how you are. It’s no point in running. You’re running because you know how it is and know how we’re meant to be, but you’re afraid things will happen again, right? No. They won’t. I can’t tell you anymore how they’ll never be the same and it’ll all change. I made a promise to you and to the whole WORLD. To GOD. To JESUS. I wouldn’t be trying with all my HEART and SOUL if I didn’t want this.
Now tell me, WHO will EVER do this for you? What kind of guy will do this for a girl? Only me. Only for you. I don’t want you to get HURT again THEN realize everything. See? What guy tells you they don’t wnat you to get HURT EVER? Only me. I’m the best thing that has happen in your life. You know it. You know we said things out of anger. You’ve said things that were far worse than anything I could say, and vice versa. WE BOTH did wrong. 2 wrongs WILL make a right.
There’s only ONE of me, Hazel. Don’t let it pass you by because I can’t possibly let go of you. Who can? You mean so much to me, and you know all those other guys aren’t real. I’M THE REAL THING. NO ONE ELSE is doing this FOR YOU BUT ME. NO ONE ELSE has ever done the things for you BUT ME. Jon agrees, Sammie agrees, Fairfield Tilt agrees, Sean agrees, everyone does. They ALL tell me I deserve better. But I don’t. I deserve ONLY you. You know we were happy. I’ve made up with your brother for you recently. I’ve done everything. I still had a surprise in hand for you anniversary. A big one. Sammie knows about it. Who will do this for you? No one.
I don’t want you to get HURT and regret it later. Don’t you see? Do you want to get hurt? NO. I told you, that’s why I’m HERE.
Don’t you understand I still care and love you? WHAT GUY does that nowadays?
I know this is all out of anger. I know, we both know it.
Last I checked, I’ve done EVERYTHING FOR YOU. How can you act this way and pretend nothing EVER happened? You can’t say anything like that to ANYONE.
You KNOW there’s only once in a lifetime for this LOVE. Do you want to not take this GUARANTEED feeling?
YOU KNOW THAT WAS ALL OUT OF ANGER. You’ve done the SAME THING but did I do this? NO. Your words hit me harder than anything also, but I still love you to not care because I KNOW you don’t mean it.
You know damn well I NEVER WOULD. Why? Because I FUCKEN LOVE YOU SO MUCH. You KNOW I don’t mean what I said. Why? Because I WOULDN’T BE HERE TELLING YOU THIS.
I’M GUARANTEED. Don’t you get it? I AM. I wouldn’t be saying it if I wasn’t.
YOU have the nerve to tell me that I’M PUSHING YOU AWAY? I want you to come CLOSER to me. You are the one who’s doing it. WHat’s this now? Exactly. You’re angry, I know it. You’re not happy. You’re too angry at me that you won’t even see what I’m going through and not remember ANYTHING.
You’re telling me the exact OPPOSITE of what I’m doing to you. YOU’RE doing it to me. Don’t switch the tables and make ME look bad.
You’re not a disgrace. You’re not anything like that. You’re my EVERYTHING. You’re MY LOVE. You’re MY WORLD. You’re MY BABY. I can’t tell you ENOUGH. Stop RUNNING AWAY and know that THIS IS REAL. THIS IS REAL LOVE. I’m THE REAL THING. Don’t you SEE? I DON’T WANT YOU TO GET HURT AGAIN. I DON’T. WHO ELSE is going to say that to you??? ONLY ME.
I’m FIGHTING for you. I’m FIGHTING MY DARNDEST. WHO ELSE will? ME. ONLY ME. Your heart is so broken now that you won’t see it. You know it’s true. You keep thinking that I’m going to break you down? I’m NOT JON. I haven’t broken you DOWN AT ALL. I’ve gave you the best 6 months of your LIFE. YOU KNOW THAT. You’ve given me the SAME. WE’RE meant TO BE. The scar hasn’t faded, valentine’s day hasn’t been gone, prom is still here.
It’s not GAME OVER. There’s still Continue…
Don’t you see? If I was going to break you down again, wouldn’t I of THESE PAST 6 MONTHS? NO. I haven’t. I’ve been GREAT TO YOU. YOU KNOW IT. NO ONE ELSE HAS Can you honestly say someone else did? No. Because I’m the Real thing here.
I’m guaranteed. If I wasn’t, why am I still here fighting?